This MCW Lawyers series is designed to help families navigate the challenges of co-parenting during the holidays with child-focused tips.
The 12 Days of Family Law at Christmas
Day 1: Plan Ahead
The festive season can be a stressful time, good planning helps minimise conflict and confusion. A clear parenting plan ensures everyone knows the arrangements, giving children the chance to focus on the joy of the season. Consider alternating years for special days like Christmas morning or dividing the holiday, so each parent has meaningful time with the children. Preparing early also allows time to address any disagreements through mediation if needed.
Day 2: Be Flexible and Reasonable
Circumstances change, and being flexible can make all the difference. If unexpected situations arise, approach them with understanding. Remember, Christmas is about love and joy, and your children will benefit most when parents work together amicably.
Day 3: Prioritise the Needs of Your Children
Christmas is about creating happy memories for your children. Avoid making them feel caught in the middle of parental disputes. Focus on what works best for them, whether it’s reducing travel between households or allowing time for relaxed, enjoyable moments like a family lunch. Keep their well-being at the centre of your plans to ensure the holiday feels special.
Day 4: Communicate Clearly and Effectively
Clear communication about arrangements prevents misunderstandings and unnecessary stress. Tools like co-parenting apps or communication books can help you stay organised and child focused. Whether it’s via text, email, or an app, the goal is to protect your children from conflict and provide them with a harmonious experience.
Day 5: Seek Legal Advice if Necessary
If parenting arrangements are unresolved and communication breaks down, consult a family lawyer without delay. Addressing disputes early ensures you have time to work through them and avoid disruptions to the holiday season.
Day 6: Minimise Travel Stress
Long journeys and rushed schedules can dampen the festive spirit for children. Aim for practical arrangements that reduce travel on Christmas Day, allowing them to fully enjoy the celebrations.
Day 7: Focus on Creating New Traditions
Separation offers the chance to start new traditions with your children. Whether it’s a Christmas Eve movie marathon or baking cookies together, establishing something unique to your family can make the holiday season feel fresh and exciting. Remember not everyone’s Christmas looks the same and it is important to do what is right for your family.
Day 8: Respect Family Traditions
Special customs and traditions hold sentimental value. Be mindful of the traditions that are meaningful to each parent and their extended families, ensuring your children have the opportunity to experience and enjoy both.
Day 9: Encourage Contact with Both Parents
If the children are with you on Christmas Day, encourage them to connect with the other parent via phone or video call. This simple gesture supports their relationship and helps them feel close to both parents during this special time.
Day 10: Avoid Criticising the Other Parent
Speaking negatively about the other parent in front of your children can cause emotional harm and create unnecessary stress. Instead, foster a positive environment that supports their relationship with both parents.
Day 11: Plan Fun Holiday Activities
Make the holidays memorable by planning activities like trips to see Christmas lights, crafting ornaments, or visiting Santa. These moments are what your children will cherish long after the season ends.
Day 12: Focus on What Matters Most
Christmas is an opportunity to prioritise what your children will remember—a time filled with love, warmth, and meaningful traditions. By creating moments that resonate long after the day has passed, you can shift the focus from logistics and challenges to building a festive atmosphere that brings genuine joy to their holiday experience.
Important: If you’re not in a safe situation to make arrangements and plans, please seek immediate support from a family lawyer who can assist you in protecting your and your children’s wellbeing.
For more information please contact our family law team at MCW Lawyers on 02 9589 6666 or email us at info@mcwlaw.com.au
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